Learn your new favorite word: Next
While information overload, alongside having too many options in the dating market are common gripes amongst the Millennial generation–something both agreed amongst ourselves and pointed out by older folk–you have to admit, it has its benefits.
In other words, if all the chicks on Tinder are suddenly giving you the cold shoulder, don’t fret. Download Bumble instead.
If the girl of your dreams ends up with another man, assuage your worries, once you begin talking to someone else (or more!) she’ll be but a distant dream.
This mindset can potentially be unhealthy longterm (i.e. the grass is always greener), but it is absolutely crucial to your success when you first begin dating.
If you’re new to dating apps, sliding into DMs, and having to pay attention to a truckload of different smartphone notifications, it may come to surprise you that everyone you’re going out with has multiple nights planned out per week with multiple suitors.
The solution? Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.
At least, not yet.
While many love to bitch and moan about the cultural decline within dating–that having sex on the first date is normal, monogamy is dead, etc.–let’s face it: it’s apart of our reality now and it’s something we have to work around.
As you embark on your quest to find true love (or have flings) and step foot inside the dating jungle, you’d be a fool to keep the first rabbit you catch.
Maybe the way they nibble on your fingers is a little harsh, and it’s even made you bleed a few times.
Maybe they leave little droppings all over your bed and you find it annoying.
Maybe, yet, they’re cage is always a mess and you feel like you’re camping inside when you’re spending the night over at their place
All of these things can be problems, and you’d have no clue if it could be better (or worse).
You don’t want to end up with that hopeless feeling regarding “the one that got away,” while simultaneously not yearning for what else is out there if you choose to settle down.
While this may appear to be a contradiction of sorts, it’s not.
This doesn’t mean you need to fuck every stranger you meet just to see if you’re “sexually compatible,” nor does it mean you should be a celibate nun until you reach the grave–unless you happen to bump into your soul mate, of course.
Well, what does this mean?
Take your time.
If dating someone in a serious-relationship seems like a bad idea from the get-go, it probably is.
It won’t be worth the emotional hangover you’ll feel when it comes to an end.
Likewise, if you genuinely think you could see yourself going the distance with someone, then give it a shot.
At least you’ll know it wasn’t meant to be without having any gnawing “What Ifs” circling your head at night as you cry into your Starwars pillowcase.
However, if your mission is to simply bed as many lovers as possible, then you can disregard the above advice entirely.
But what is one to do after these situations?
Play your, “NEXT,” card as soon as possible, and get moving.
If you’re going to accomplish your goal of meeting the one or slammin’ as many members of the opposite sex as possible, it’ll be in your best interest to skirt around anyone who isn’t on the same page as you.
Why waste your time and energy on someone who isn’t crazy about you, or at least somewhat interesting in getting to know you? Or who at least wants to see you in the nude at 2 am?
The sooner you say NEXT, the sooner you’ll realize that the ol’ cliche, “there are plenty of fish in the sea,” rings true.
So if the room you walked into sucks, simply walk out, open a new door, and keep exploring.